There’s no denying the anguish that follows a breakup, particularly if your relationship is public. Vlogger Jelai Andres reflects on the lessons she’s learnt from her broken marriage to Ex-Battalion rapper Jon Gutierrez in an interview for Toni Gonzaga’s YouTube channel.
Jelai spoke out about her ex-alleged husband’s adultery:
“Kailangan mahal mo rin yung sarili mo. Bago ka magbigay ng magbigay, mag-iwan ka sa sarili mo. Wag mong papabayaang makawawa ka.”
Jelai and Jon, formerly known as #Jolai, first gained notoriety on the internet in 2015, the same year they met and began dating.
Jelai called it quits with the rapper barely one year into their relationship, saying that he had cheated on her in a long Facebook post.
She claims that being cheated on ripped her apart. The experience, according to Jelai, was:
“Para kang namatay. Lumaki ako na pure, na naniniwala ka na may kabutihan ‘tong taong ‘to, na baka nagkamali lang siya. Magbibigay ako ng chance.”
In 2017, they reconnected on Instagram, with Jelai displaying her emotions on her sleeve in an Instagram picture. She wrote:
“He’s not perfect, but neither am I. He makes me laugh; he makes me cry. I love him with all my heart. I have the perfect imperfect man.”
After a year of travelling and enjoying their whirlwind romance together, the two married in 2018.
However, it finds out that Jon continued to have affairs with other women.
“Paulit-ulit na nangyari, which is hindi naman nalaman ng ibang tao, ‘onti lang yung nalaman niyo. Dalawa lang ata. Pero meron. Ang dami kong paghihirap na pinagdadaanan kasi pilit kong binubuo yung sarili ko. Bubuuin ko rin siya while ako naman pala yung nawawasak.”
She developed d.e.p.r.es.s.i.o.n as a result of the e.m.o.t.i.o.n.a.l a.b.u.s.e.
She recalls being brought to the hospital numerous times because of her panic episodes.
“Umiiyak ako tas dire-diretso na lang naninigas ako, tas nagsasara yung throat ko. Di ako makahinga.”
When asked why she kept fighting for her spouse despite the difficulties, Jelai says:
“Naniwala ako sa kanya. Naniwala ako kasi love mo eh. Kinasal kami. Feeling ko nung time na yun kailangan ko ipaglaban. Ginawa ko lahat hanggang nasagad na.”
Their breakup in March 2021 was the final straw for her, and she filed a concubinage case against her husband in June of that year.
It’s safe to say she hasn’t looked back since, and she appears to be content with her single status.